Halloween used to be my favorite holiday, but when we discovered J’s peanut allergy, it stopped feeling like days in the Green Room, trying on costumes for a play. It started to feel like Russian Roulette.
Even if we managed to scope safe candy (not an easy task), there was always the contact with unsafe candy to be concerned about, and the perpetual look of pained disappointment when my son couldn’t eat any of the treats he’d gotten.
Halloween became a member of the Legion of Doom.
Easter quickly joined the infamous group.
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Stupid things aren’t safe. Like Lemonheads, and most chocolate eggs.
So you see, it became a nightmare. Despite my pleas, and their best efforts, unsafe candy was ALWAYS around at family gatherings. Kids being kids and thrilled about the holiday ate the unsafe candies and didn’t wash their hands–putting J in danger.
More hurtful things happened too. Some people, fully aware of J’s allergy, would still stuff eggs with unsafe candies. I was forced to choose to either a.) let him participate in an egg hunt where he wouldn’t get to keep any of the treats, b.) make him sit out while all the other kids egg hunted, or c.) stop participating.
For the most part, we’ve stopped participating. Thankfully, my family is getting more and more vigilant. This year we had people over at our house for breakfast and egg hunting. My mom stuffed the eggs and assembled the baskets–she’s always been awesome and super careful with Josiah. My step dad, brother, sister, brother-in-law, nephew and dad came too! My lovely sister didn’t get upset that there wasn’t any chocolate for her son. My dad brought gifts from him & my step mom that were toys instead of candy (which is perfect) and even included a peanut allergy necklace for J!
There was no stress.
There was no fighting. No need for Benadryl. No dozen boiled eggs that would never be eaten.
Overall, it was perfect.
Maybe Easter can start it’s own Legion. Like the Legion of Super Stressful-But-Non-Lethal Events. Either way, it’s been downgraded.
Now some pictures for your enjoyment.
P.S.-This was last week